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Raising Adler

A letter to my fellow American Christians (now that I'm a parent),

These days, time is something I don't have a lot of. So I'm just going to come right out and say what's really on my mind --

I am more concerned about my little Adler man growing up in a world where Christians are still boycotting things, than him growing up in a world where gay marriage is legal. 

Maybe your conversion story is different than mine. Maybe you came to Christ by watching people stand up for biblical morality when the culture said otherwise.

But me? I became a Christian because I was surrounded by people whom I was drawn to. They were peaceful, not divisive. They listened, they welcomed...they loved. I wanted to be like them. 

I want the same for my little boy. I used to think becoming a parent would help me understand...maybe even participate in the latest Christian boycott. Second to my desire to have my children walk with the Lord would be my desire to have them live in a country that values what the Bible has to say...right?

Sometimes I look at my boy and wonder how I'm every going to tell him no. He's just so dang cute. I want life to be easy for him. I don't want his heart to be broken, I don't want him to feel pain. This is part love, part selfishness...because his broken heart will be my broken heart, his pain my pain. And as humans, we generally like to avoid these feelings. 

But this will not be his reality. He will have struggles. When he does, I hope Eric and I will point him to Jesus. 

And when the time comes that he finds out his parents are totally not cool, or he questions what's true, I need you to point him to Jesus, too. I want him to see the community of the kingdom of God beyond the four walls of our house and say, "I want to be a part of that."

So for now, my mom status hasn't changed anything. I'm still rolling my eyes at boycotts. Because they seem utterly unattractive to me. They wreak of a need to have the loudest voice, an outlet for those who are easily offended, a war against those who disagree.

I am going to train my boy to fight a battle that is SO MUCH GREATER than supporting or condemning a business because of their CEO's moral stance. That way, even if there's still a Starbucks on every corner, he will know victory.

More than establishing a safe environment for Adler to grow up in, he needs to see Jesus. And Jesus didn't respond to divisiveness with more divisiveness, but with an invitation to have a conversation with him. If he were here today, he may have that conversation over coffee...at Starbucks, I don't know. He went where lost people were, so if there are lost people at Starbucks, I'd imagine that he'd go there. 

But you can choose not to go to Starbucks in good conscience. My point is this: Jesus is so much more attractive than boycotts. And we need a love that is irresistible if we want our children to follow Him. That's why I'm choosing to be more concerned by the hundreds of people I pass by every day that do not know Christ, rather than the hundreds of dollars I may have spent this year at Starbucks (because let's face it, new moms need caffeine and drive-thrus).

In love -

Your sister, Amy


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